In the fall of 2004, I moved from Boston to Portland, OR.
Mostly on a whim, when push comes to shove.
While I was there, my alcoholism kicked into high-gear.
The only places I went were the liquor store, burger king, the grocery store (once in a blue moon), Target and Arby’s.
I think I’d been to Arby’s maybe 3 times before then, but I lived there that month.
It has since become a symbol of loneliness and alcoholism for me.
I’ve been to one a couple times since then, and I almost cried each time.
On a plus note, I’ve been clean and sober since 11/04/04.
(and living in Maryland)
Tags: alcoholism, arbys, fast, food, loneliness
Other People's Thoughts
I think it’s cool that you are able to put your feelings into words…something I couldn’t do for the longest time, therefore I too got caught up in the darkness of alcoholism/addiction. I’m clean and sober since 6/24/05 and thank God every day!
— MKChomaRN Monday May 1, 2006 #
Yes, portland is a terrible place to try to supress alcoholism. To be honest though, I only moved back east because I wanted more than 2 seasons in a year.
— powell & 42nd Monday May 1, 2006 #
While not as sad as you, I also have a tendency to get sad because of Arby’s. I once spent my very last $5 at Arby’s during a very sad and unemployed stretch of my life.
— Arbys Sadness #2 Monday May 1, 2006 #
well done on keeping clean. keep it up.
— brob Tuesday May 2, 2006 #
I like Arby’s. I mentioned my desire to open a coffee shop and an employee said, “I don’t see you in coffee, I see you in tea.” I’ve had my business 5 years. Good luck.
— Portland Tea Tuesday May 2, 2006 #
Oh how I can relate.. It’s pharmacies for me. I can’t go into a RiteAid or CVS without a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach… Grateful that it’s only a feeling now and not an active reality.
— michelle Tuesday May 2, 2006 #
where in md?
— me Wednesday May 3, 2006 #
Congrats on being sober.If only it was easy as non drinkers think
— Ken Jones Monday May 8, 2006 #
Arbys, that was the first place I got a job at. I worked there for a month in high school. The entire city of Long Beach reminds me of alcohol and sadness. I have to leave and yet something still clings to that sick sadness. I’ve been in treatment the last 7 months and the party is definitely over. I have a twin sister whos having a little boy and I actually want to be there. I’m moving back home with my mom, thats a miracle in itself. I used to hate my mom and now all I want to do is be somewhere that feels safe and for once she can offer me that. Sober is good.
— Nicky Monday May 8, 2006 #
I have tried the geographic cure and still all my emotional baggages followed me. I had to go through lonelines and dispair to realize that I need a support system. It is an inside job in recovery but it is worth it. One day at a time. Isolation is dangerous for me.I am so glad I made my amends to my mom before she passed away. Thanks for sharing.
— Andree Monday May 15, 2006 #
Arbys was the last meal she shared with me. I must remaind her, Also with My mother. I’ will never stop loving you… If you try to hide….I will find you
— MVS Wednesday May 17, 2006 #
My favorite food at Arby’s is the club salad because it quinches my hunger
— cortnae Tuesday May 23, 2006 #
Great job getting sober. If you ever struggle, remember those around you love you, even if they don’t understand… They just want you to get better. If it came down to it, they would be at your side at the end, even if you didn’t call them… because at the end of the day, they are your kid, or your parent, or sibling, etc. Good luck. Keep it up!
— Cori Wednesday November 24, 2010 #
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