The Saddest Thing I Own

Best of luck to you and your son …

Good luck to you and your son.

Best of luck to you and your son. I’m glad you have found the strength to leave. (((HUGS)))

Us measly humans find more strength in the loss of something special than in the gain because it lets us know that life is precious and short. Revel in the fact that you and your son have the strength and support of many friends and that although there will be other kitties….there will only be the two that gave you the strength to empower yourself.

It’s amazing how God can send his message, even through cats. He will walk by your side through this. Good Luck.

i admire your strength and insight. how do you know when enough is enough, or that it will never be enough? i have the insight, (finally!) just not the strenghth.

I hope everything goes good for you and your son. I lost a tuxedo cat like Sylvester myself, he would actually attack people that approached me when I was asleep.

It’s really tough to have to learn a lesson through such a loss. But, at least, now you know – an indoor cat is a safer cat. Smudge & Sylvester will always be close in your heart. Been there.

Oh, my dear, I am so very sorry this happened to you. Best of luck and I hope that you and your son find the peace you crave in your new home with your new kitties. Smudge and Sylvester were beautiful and look very sweet. I’m so sorry you had to lose them to learn how to leave. {{{hugs}}}

Could I recommend the book “Uncoupling” by Vaughan? It was written by a socialogist, and documents what it sounds like you are experiencing.

Also, I’m sorry to hear about your cats, as they are part of your family, and loosing them is like loosing a family member.

My wife and I are so very sorry for the loss of your little boys Smudge and Sylvester. We are cat lovers and have had ours for the past going on 14 years. We are blessed to have had him this long and he is absolutely our little ‘Kitty Boy’ His name is Maxwell and we love him. I tell people he’s my third son and they laugh but we’re sure that you and you’re son know exactly what we’re speaking of. Our thoughts are of you and your loss.When you get other cats we hope that helps to restore some of the loss you both are feeling now. If those two cats were instrumental in helping you to get out of a bad relatonship then I say three cheers for you, your son and those inspirational cats Smudge and Sylvester.

I ended a relationship such as yours 16 years ago and I’ve had NO regrets! Living with a control freak is like being in prison. Empowering myself was the best thing I ever did and I am living happily ever after. By the way, the first kitty I got after my divorce in 1990 was named SMUDGE!

I hope your kitties come back , I have 4 that we love very much .

Chris
You know enough is enough when you start to get ill…....alot.

When something cruel is said ( again ) and you can’t even think up a response because the wind has been knocked out of you.

When he is always on your ( almost perfect ) son about things real or not real because he needs to make someone feel smaller than him, and you won’t play.

When you realize he IS a control freak AND an alchohlic and it is NOT because of you.

When he has finally hurt you so bad and so many times you quietly wish he would die.
All the time.

Strength, well you just grab it when you can. I have attacks of ” what the hell am I doing and how can I manage ”
My friends help but they have also sat back for 2 years while I struggled with the decision. They can only do so much for you.
I am an artist and trust me when they say ” starving artist ” they mean it ! The road for me is tough but you know what, I am no longer walking on egg shells every day!!!!! Well, maybe financial egg shells, but I am not letting someone punch my happiness button everytime they need to feel good about themselves.
He is being a toad and I can only hope yours will not. The botton line is this, and it’s been said before.
Life IS too short. If you gut is telling you to leave then bite the bullet and get the hell out.
Good luck and keep your chin up.

You go for your happiness and that of your son. Your DeeDee, Smudge and Sylvester will be your guardian angels

I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world

Thank you all for you kind words of encouragement and sympathy. I am blessed with many friends, still it means so much to me to realize that people I don’t have the pleasure of knowing wish us luck. I will keep this thought as close to me as the memories of our kitties.
I decided to check this site after I had a dream about them last night. They had come home and Sylvester had put on quite abit of weight. It made me smile this morning when I woke. Maybe they wanted me to feel better.
Thanks again for your thoughts.

May your dreams come true. There’s always “Rainbow Bridge”, too, where you’ll, hopefully, meet again

I have adopted several stray cats who all had obviously been loved by someone at some point in their lives prior to coming to live with me. Just hold onto the thought that some crazy old cat ladies were in your neighborhood rounding up the strays to give them a better life- somewhere indoors! Best of luck to you, and don’t forget to adopt a shelter kitty-or two.

Good luck, and be strong. ^^

OMG, how I cried when I read how you lost your cats. I can only imagine your pain. I have 2 cats named Onyx & Mishu. They’re mother & son.If I lost either one of them I think I’ll want to die. They sleep on the bed with me.Onyx by my side,her head buried under my arm pits & Mishu at the foot of the bed with one paw over my leg. I hope your heart & that of your son mends soon.

i feel sorry for you, i have 4 kittens and 3 cats, i did have 4 cats but one all of a sudden died a few weeks ago i was sad because even though they are barn cats they were a part of my life. i know how you must feel iam sorry my cat buddy ran away before then came back but only to get my 2 cats rosy and tigger pregnant so iam very sorry. my deepest sympanthy. its like they are a loved one, this week on july long weekend my paka (grampa, iam dutch) died at 86 and we are all still morning his lose and i loved him so much. he always made my family wooden cars or rocking horses or wooden bears to hang on the wall but now there will never be any of that agian, he is in heaven now and is in no more pain or suffering and he will live an eternal life with God and Jesus. i will see him when i die but i will never see my cats agian but thats ok because even though i loved them its ok to let them go. sorry! :( Lori

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